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If you can give me advice i would be gratefull

Wed Feb 6, 2008, 10:11 PM
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Im not sure how to start, Well this girl ive known since they 8th grade ive known her up to now. At first we were very close, when she met me, we hit it off right away, i was in her house every saturday she would call me exacly as i got home lol we would talk for hours until one of our phones would die or until her dad would unplug it and tell her to go to sleep. We would watch, talk about anime and other stuff. We had great times together.

When we entered highschool things just started to change like with everyone obcource, we met friends we hanged out and i got jealous but we over came that .

In certain times she would act distant. When she started getting boyfriends she would always put them first even though she said friendship always came first, as time went by she started acting like that more and more acting like that with every boyfriend, calling me when she just needed advice, asking me about why he would act this way, or about personal questions.

We use to talk online for hours, now she just leaves me there for hours and not tell me if she left or went to do something or just sign off with out saying good bye. On myspace even though i try or shoudnt make it a big deal, she didnt put me on her top 8, and she put people she barely talks to on it.

Now we are in college Sometimes ive tried to talk to her on messanger about how i feel and about how she acts but she just says shes busy and she has to go, ive tried to tell her in person but she just changes the subject and thinks there is nothing wrong. Everytime i want to hang out with her i always have to do it on her schedule and never mine, shes never come over to my house, she says she is busy when she docent even work.

I dont know what to do, when i needed her the most she wasent there, people say i should stop talking to her but i cant, not that i cant i wont i would miss her.I wish i could tell her how much she hurts my feelings but i dont, I always want to make her happy and dont want to upset her and have her stop talking to me. If she docent want to be my friend atleast she would tell me and not have me feel like this. I know it may sound pathetic, but please over look that and give me some advice.

I got some advice to put her at the end of myspace and i did since she didnt put me on her top 8 and i just did they same thing, when i went back to check she had deleted me, i went to Gaiaonline and she deleted me there to, when i saw this i burst in to tears right now iys tearing me apart.
Thank You

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:iconshadowthehedgehogzx:
go to her house and face her and tell her why is she doing this and to tell u the truth! , though maybe she will say something to hurt u, though i suggest u should write letters to hear its better that way, so u can know whats going on!, but ur friend like this u should be angry at her for doing like this uuuh , ur the same as me i had a friend to same in a way but yours is diffrent a little , but i can only hope if u talk to her and face her or write a mail for which i more recommended then the first option, hope i helped u sis^^

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im gonna bite ya XD [link] ,ur next XD :heart: [link]:heart:
:icondardanus88:
T_T thank you so much, i wrote her an email. She wont answer me in texting or phone

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:iconshadowthehedgehogzx:
and ur very welcome sis :hug: , and oh i see will hope it solved ur problem sis ^^

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im gonna bite ya XD [link] ,ur next XD :heart: [link]:heart:
:iconpinkdarkrose:
Ahh. You seem to be very emotional with this problem. Well, let me tell you something right now. You asked for advice, and here is my bit. If you think I may hurt your feelings or make you uncomftorable, then you should probably stop reading and hide this.

Anyway, she's not your friend. At all. She is just USING you. You're in denial about her not caring for you, but you have to face the reality! She DOES NOT care for you, sweetheart. She's being incnsiderate and very rude and hurtful. That is NOT how friends act...

She only comes you when SHE needs YOU. Friendships are 50/50. You both need to contribute half to the friendship so that it can be successful. Apparently, she's not doing her half. Not even a third by the sounds of it.

I'm sorry, but she's not your friend. And it hurts like hell letting a friend go, but you'll cause yourself more pain if you keep staying in denial about her. What you need to do is write out a list describing what SHE does for YOU NOW. Not three or five years ago, but TODAY and yesterday and what she did for you last week. Then, list all the things you do for her and you'lll see you're the better friend.

It's going to hurt a lot, and there's going to be a lot of tears, but the BEST, BEST thing for you to do is gather up the few particles left of the friendship you had and hand them back to her. Give her a sad, last good-bye and move on with your life. This isn't good for your health to be so depressed over one girl. Trust me, I know. It happens to all of us. Friends come and go, no matter how dear they may be.

(sorry for all the errors. deviantart is loading slow and i'm typing fast so it may skip some letters)
:icondardanus88:
Yes thank you, she gave me the final blow a week or so ago it was cruel how she did it but i have to move on and it will take time, and yes i did myself the favor of packing everything she gave me and putting it away someonewhere were i dont need to see them. She was my friends not anymore and as hard as it may seem i need to accept that, i just wish out of decency she would have told me in my face and not through some myspace message. Thank you for taking the time to read it

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:iconpinkdarkrose:
well that's good :]

Your welcome, it was nice reading
:icondardanus88:
Lol thanks, im pretty bitter and angry right now but it will pass just trying not to ish bad things on her

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